Curing Hate Within the LGBTQ
November 9, 2010

We are at a crossroad as LGBTQ people. We are actively lobbying in the political arena for equal rights. We are also vocal in the socio-cultural arena “demanding” Respect.

We can March, we can Lobby, we can form non-profit Activist groups until we are blue in the face, BUT UNTIL WE ARE WILLING TO LIVE WHAT WE SAY WE WANT WE WILL GET NO-WHERE!

We cannot expect Respect from others when we are not willing to grant it within our own community. Or the Global Community at large. It is not acceptable for us to remain factionalized. We can’t march together for Pride then go off into our little click groups demeaning the others we just walked alongside demanding “Respect for Diversity.”

IF WE WANT CHANGE WE MUST BE THE CHANGE WE WANT!

So if you are a Lesbian and hating Gay Men, or Bisexuals or Transgendered Persons, IT DOESN’T WORK!

If you are a Gay Man who cuts down Lesbians, or Bisexuals or Transgendered Persons, IT DOESN’T WORK!

If you are a Bisexual or Transgendered Person who has made Lesbians or Gays or anyone else the enemy – IT DOESN’T WORK!

If we want to end Bullying we need to stop practicing it. That extends to our Straight Allies. (If we believe that we didn’t choose our sexual orientation then they didn’t either – so let’s not hold that against them!) 😉

I DON’T USUALLY SHOUT THIS MUCH IN THIS SPACE – but I’m tired of the HYPOCRISY.

We need massive change in society – American society in particular, which seems to be way behind the European and some other societies and cultures. If we are going to achieve that then we need to tear down the fences between ourselves as LGBTQ and TRULY live in Respect of one another. We have to heal our “Society” first.

I may not understand everyone’s orientation, any more than I understand everyone’s views or opinions or life experiences. But here’s what I know – I can RESPECT anyone. If I’m going to demand respect for my choices then I MUST be willing to respect those of others – whether or not I agree with or understand them.

Here’s a video that I found on YouTube since the “It Get’s Better” Project took off. It deals with someone within the LGBTQ community who is targeting Transgendered people. Please, let’s put this kind of crap to rest – For everyone’s sake. -MsQ

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“It Gets Better” (Broadway sings for the Trevor Project)
October 20, 2010

AWESOME Video put together for The Trevor Project and the It Gets Better Project. Thanks to all who made this video possible – you are amazing. Nuff said!

Please help share this video with as many people as you can! Help get this beautiful and powerful message out to our LGBTQ Youth! -Deb Adler

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Wear Purple on October 20 for Spirit Day
October 20, 2010

GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation) has launched a “Wear Purple on October 20 for Spirit Day” Campaign on Facebook, Twitter and through its website:

http://www.glaad.org/spiritday

to ask people to honor the recent LGBTQ teens who committed suicide and to End Anti-Gay Bullying.

Here are some of the suggested additional activities:

“ On Wednesday, post this tweet: I’m wearing purple to end anti-LGBT bullying – make your profile pic purple today #SpiritDay http://glaad.org/spiritday

“On Wednesday, post this Facebook status: I’m wearing purple today to support LGBT youth – make your profile pic purple today for Spirit Day at http://glaad.org/spiritday

Please visit http://www.glaad.org/spiritday and support providing safe schools free from bullying for LGBTQ and all Youth!

Thanks! -MsQueer

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Stand Up To Youth Suicide
October 12, 2010

This is re-published from YouTube channel SeanChapin1 | October 10, 2010

“Video montage of the “Stand Up To Youth Suicide” rally and candle light march in San Francisco on October 8, 2010, organized by Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons. Featuring speakers from The Trevor Project, GSA Network, Soulforce and more (including myself singing my original song “It Gets Better” as an homage to Dan Savage’s project).

“If you are an LGBT student and in need of help, the following organizations and projects are here to support you (if I am missing any, please contact me):”

It Gets Better Project – http://www.itgetsbetterproject.com

Make It Better Project – http://www.makeitbetterproject.org

The Trevor Project – http://www.thetrevorproject.org

GSA Network – http://www.gsanetwork.org

GLSEN – http://www.glsen.org

Soulforce – http://www.soulforce.org

COLAGE – http://www.colage.org

The Safe Schools Coalition – http://www.safeschoolscoalition.org/

Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons – http://www.affirmation.org/

Video: Sean Chapin

 

The following teens committed suicide during the month of September due to bullying:

Billy Lucas (15) September 9, 2010. Indiana

Cody J. Barker (17) September 13, 2010. Wisconsin

Seth Walsh (13) September 19, 2010. California

Tyler Clementi (18) September 22, 2010. New Jersey

Asher Brown (13) September 23, 2010. Texas

Harrison Chase Brown (15) September, 25 2010. Colorado

Raymond Chase (19) September 29, 2010. Rhode Island

Felix Sacco (17) September 29, 2010. Massachusetts

Caleb Nolt (14) September 30, 2010. Indiana

It’s time for us to come together now in a united front to support safe schools and provide a loving and nurturing environment for ALL youth. These tragic deaths must end now. -Deb Adler

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Help Stop Media Bashing of Trans- and Gender Non-Conforming Children
June 10, 2009

Visit this site to take action.

We can make a few bullies pay for the deaths of so many.

http://openletterstokrxq.wordpress.com/

Families of Gender Non-Conforming Children Ask For Your Help

Visit this site to take action. We can make a few bullies pay for the deaths of so many.

http://openletterstokrxq.wordpress.com/

Families of Gender Non-Conforming Children Ask For Your Help

Many newspapers have reported on the recent program on KRXQ in Sacremento which concerned transgender and gender-non-conforming children. An excerpt from the Huffington Post article by Michael Rowe summarizes the statements of the radio disk jockeys, Rob Williams and Arnie State.

Even by the flexible moral, ethical, and professional standards of American talk radio, the May 28th segment of KRXQ 98.5 FM Sacramento’s Rob, Arnie, & Dawn in the Morning radio talk show makes for a sickening half-hour of ugliness and cruelty. For once, the focus was not LGBT adults, but minors. The hosts, Rob Williams and Arnie States, devoted the segment in question to a vicious diatribe against transgender children, some as young as five, focusing in particular on the case of one Omaha family raising a gender dysphoric child, and their decision to support her transition from male to female.

Williams and States took turns referring to gender dysphoric children as “idiots” and “freaks,” who were just out “for attention” and had “a mental disorder that just needs to somehow be gotten out of them,” either by verbal abuse on the part of the parents, or even shock therapy.

“Allowing transgenders to exist, pretty soon it becomes normal to fall in love with the animals,” they said.

As parents with gender non-conforming and transgender kids, we have come a long way in our understanding of this issue. Supportive parents come from all walks of life, all parts of the country, all religious traditions, all social classes. Some of us identify as conservatives, some liberal; some are hetero / gender normative themselves, some are not. Our kids come from traditional families and non-traditional families. Our kids most often (but not always) have gender normative siblings (or are only children).

Only we really know who these kids are, and who they have to be. We brought them into the world. Now we’re trying to make the world a safer place for them. None of the choices we make in raising our kids are made lightly. We know the dangers our kids face. But we also know the world is changing. And we have to be a part of that change.

“I have every right to call you a freak and judge you on that.” One of these men said. We ask that before anyone’s judgement is final, they listen to us, to the families, to the children, to the experts. Autistic kids were once thought of as freaks. As were Disabled kids. Cleft lip kids. Mixed race kids. Hyperactive kids. These kids are understood and appreciated. Someday soon, so will our kids.

Read our stories before you share any opinion based on incomplete knowledge, or on your own parenting experiences with gender normative children. These kids are different. They’re not freaks or idiots. They can change hearts and minds. They are brave, and strong, but  they cannot survive without support and understanding. They lead lives worth living, worth defending.

We love our kids. We will not let them be humiliated, denigrated, harassed or bullied without a fight.

If you’re with us, do something. Contact a sponsor on the naughty list or the nice list. Praise the nice; spank the naughty. Contact the FCC or KRXQ. Support TYFA. You can help save a kid’s life.

Thank you Paul for posting this comment originally at https://msqueer.wordpress.com/2008/08/13/annual-holiday-gala-fundraiser-for-the-trevor-project/#comments

MsQueer

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The L Word: SPOILERS, SPOILERS EVERYWHERE!
December 8, 2008

It took me 4 years to discover “The L Word” which is about to air it’s 6th and final season in 8 episodes beginning in January. This show features the lives and loves of a tight-knit group of lesbian friends and lovers in West Hollywood.

For the last 2 years I have followed their drama, as much as I possibly could via YouTube videos and other viewings made available over the internet (since I don’t have access to Cable TV or satellite). I’m an ardent “TiBette” fan and I am absolutely IN LOVE with actress Laurel Holloman, who portray the Tina half of Tina Kennard-Bette Porter (hence, TiBette).

I, like many other fans would like to see this show go on for another 6 seasons at least, and I’m already feeling the void that will be left after the final episode airs.  With ShowTime running both Queer as Folk and The L Word, it remains to be seen if other Lesbian and Gay shows will come in to take up slack left by their departures. A least there will be the DVD’s!

Season 6 has been a well-kept secret up until now by cast, crew, and ShowTime. But the lid’s off and there’s lots of activity on the “net” providing teasers and spoilers in addition to the official promos. For the full “scoop” go to The L Word page of this blog

😉 MsQueer 

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SUCCESSFUL NATIONAL ANGER INTO ACTION WEEKEND
November 20, 2008

Here’s an update from the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Action Fund.  This email message from Executive Director Rea Carey begins with,

This past weekend, all across the country, hundreds of thousands of LGBT people and our allies came together to demand the most basic tenet of the American promise – the right to equality and justice for all.” 

Read the rest of this email message here: anger-into-action-weekend4

The Supreme Court of California has already agreed to review the constitutionality of Proposition 8. We will be heard!

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Transgender Day of Remembrance
November 20, 2008

I received this as an email from the Communty of LGBT Centers. You can find out more about this organization at www.lgbtcenters.com

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The Transgender Day of Remembrance, which honors the memory of those murdered because of anti-transgender prejudice, is recognized annually on November 20. CenterLink mourns the loss of those lost to violence and oppression and encourages you to take part in observances in you local area.

In 2007 the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Projects reported that 16% of their overall reports were anti-transgender motivated, and that 231 transgender women filed reports of violence. Attacks against transgender men went up 65%. According to the International Transgender Day of Remembrance website, there have been 14 known transgender people murdered during 2008 in the U.S. alone. As murders of transgender people are often underreported, or the identity of transgender murder victims are misreported, there is no way to know accurate numbers.

Local events may vary, so be sure to check with a local LGBT Center, Gay-Straight Alliance or other support group likely to be participating. Click on the links below for more information on observances at local community centers.

Wingspan
Tucson, AZ
http://wingspan.org/content/evt_details.php?event_id=2732

L A Gay & Lesbian Center
Los Angeles, CA
http://www.lagaycenter.org

Billy DeFrank LGBT Community Center
San Jose, CA
http://www.defrank.org/cgi-bin/calendar.pl?view=Event&event_id=7194&popup=1&clickday=20

The Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Community Center of Baltimore
Baltimore, MD
http://www.eqmd.org/tdor

Affirmations
Ferndale, MI
http://www.goaffirmations.org

The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Community Center
New York, NY
http://www.gaycenter.org/node/1929

The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center of Greater Cleveland
Cleveland, OH
http://lgcsc.org/thecenter/articles.php?req=read&article_id=77

Terry Stone
CenterLink
http://www.glbtcenters.org

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