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We’ve Come a Long Way, But Keep Your Hiking Shoes
December 3, 2014

As we approach the ending of 2014, there is a lot for which to be grateful as LGBTQ Persons. Marriage Equality still has its fight on in some states, but the battle has been won in others, and truly – I see this as going the same way the ERA did years ago. Popular opinion of the vast majority of the population in America shows support for Gay Marriage, or at the very least…indifference as to the need to oppose it. We’re almost there.

Of course we know from humankind’s history that you can legislate prejudice away, but eliminating it as a practice is quite another issue. I still believe in Respect and Dignity for All. I don’t expect to change everyone. I just want to co-exist peacefully alongside my neighbors and have the same rights and protections for my family, as they wants for theirs.

I want to know that “community” is not just a campy word used to describe a sub-culture or fragment of the population, but a truly inclusive term that encompasses my neighbors, my fellow residents of state, country and planet.

I received an email from Rea Carey, Executive Director of the National LGBTQ Task Force with an invitation to let her know what my concerns were for the coming year. Of course, I’m pretty sure I wasn’t the only person who got that email, still it was a personable gesture and I took some time to put my thoughts together and share.

Here’s what I sent. I share these with you who have followed this blog, and those who may be checking in for the first time. They aren’t necessarily unique or profound, they are just mine…

 

Dear Rea,

Thank you for this opportunity to communicate with you directly. I have 2 major areas of concern that I would like to see as part of our focus for the coming year.

First, according to the StopBullying.gov site, there are still no Federal laws on the books that specifically address bullying. Although  bullying can be covered under other anti-discrimination legislation, I believe that still permits for a degree of “interpretation” when it comes to schools and other institutions. We have made excellent advances in awareness on this issue, but I would also like the awareness and proactive work to extend to the workplace as well. Again, we have made great strides, and I believe we can go even further to ensure that Everyone is guaranteed their Rights and Freedoms as fellow human beings.

Secondly, I’m not even sure what work has been done in this area, so forgive me if I am asking for something already in progress, but I would also like to see more educational efforts and outreach within the LGBTQ community, as well as with law enforcement and other agencies, in the area of domestic violence within LGBTQ relationships and partnerships. I believe we must first remove the “stigma” and element of denial within our own community, and then help to educate the appropriate agencies so that there can be accurate assessment and help can be given to those in need.

I appreciate all your dedication and work on the Task Force, and this invitation to offer my feedback. May you, your family, your staff and friends and their families have meaningful and joyful holidays. After all, we deserve it! 🙂

Sincerely,

Deb Adler

author, MsQueer blog: www.msqueer.com

website: www.debadler.com

 

 

Cheers,

MsQueer

 

 

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I’m Back!
November 11, 2014

Okay, it’s been a while since I’ve written any posts here, and there have been many exciting developments, such as the legalization of same-sex marriage in 32 states now! Yes, there have been some set-backs, but we are definitely moving forward in the right direction.

So time to ‘pick up the pen” again, so to speak, because this is a particularly challenging time for all. I will be sharing information regarding spiritual development as well as political concerns. Just be cause we’re getting some rights doesn’t mean we’ve got our shit together!

So for those who have been following, I hope you are well. There have been lots of changes in my life during this “radio silence” and I’ll be sharing about those as we go along.

Peace.

-MsQueer

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2010 in review
January 2, 2011

The stats helper monkeys at WordPress.com mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

Healthy blog!

The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads Fresher than ever.

Crunchy numbers

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A Boeing 747-400 passenger jet can hold 416 passengers. This blog was viewed about 4,200 times in 2010. That’s about 10 full 747s.

In 2010, there were 23 new posts, growing the total archive of this blog to 103 posts. There were 6 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 3mb.

The busiest day of the year was March 13th with 56 views. The most popular post that day was LET CONSTANCE MCMILLEN TAKE HER GIRLFRIEND TO THE PROM! .

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were zimbio.com, msqueer.com, facebook.com, rpc.blogrolling.com, and en.wordpress.com.

Some visitors came searching, mostly for lawrence king, who killed jenny schecter, carl joseph walker-hoover, 11 year old, and suicide due to bullying.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.

1

LET CONSTANCE MCMILLEN TAKE HER GIRLFRIEND TO THE PROM! March 2010
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2

11-Year Old Commits Suicide Due to Bullying in School April 2009
10 comments

3

Who Killed Jenny Schecter? December 2008
19 comments

4

Laurel Holloman Picks Up Bravo A-List Award for TLW Elevator Scene April 2009
2 comments

5

Gay Buying Power: A Force To Be Reckoned With August 2008
5 comments

Curing Hate Within the LGBTQ
November 9, 2010

We are at a crossroad as LGBTQ people. We are actively lobbying in the political arena for equal rights. We are also vocal in the socio-cultural arena “demanding” Respect.

We can March, we can Lobby, we can form non-profit Activist groups until we are blue in the face, BUT UNTIL WE ARE WILLING TO LIVE WHAT WE SAY WE WANT WE WILL GET NO-WHERE!

We cannot expect Respect from others when we are not willing to grant it within our own community. Or the Global Community at large. It is not acceptable for us to remain factionalized. We can’t march together for Pride then go off into our little click groups demeaning the others we just walked alongside demanding “Respect for Diversity.”

IF WE WANT CHANGE WE MUST BE THE CHANGE WE WANT!

So if you are a Lesbian and hating Gay Men, or Bisexuals or Transgendered Persons, IT DOESN’T WORK!

If you are a Gay Man who cuts down Lesbians, or Bisexuals or Transgendered Persons, IT DOESN’T WORK!

If you are a Bisexual or Transgendered Person who has made Lesbians or Gays or anyone else the enemy – IT DOESN’T WORK!

If we want to end Bullying we need to stop practicing it. That extends to our Straight Allies. (If we believe that we didn’t choose our sexual orientation then they didn’t either – so let’s not hold that against them!) 😉

I DON’T USUALLY SHOUT THIS MUCH IN THIS SPACE – but I’m tired of the HYPOCRISY.

We need massive change in society – American society in particular, which seems to be way behind the European and some other societies and cultures. If we are going to achieve that then we need to tear down the fences between ourselves as LGBTQ and TRULY live in Respect of one another. We have to heal our “Society” first.

I may not understand everyone’s orientation, any more than I understand everyone’s views or opinions or life experiences. But here’s what I know – I can RESPECT anyone. If I’m going to demand respect for my choices then I MUST be willing to respect those of others – whether or not I agree with or understand them.

Here’s a video that I found on YouTube since the “It Get’s Better” Project took off. It deals with someone within the LGBTQ community who is targeting Transgendered people. Please, let’s put this kind of crap to rest – For everyone’s sake. -MsQ

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Bigotry Takes a Hit
August 6, 2010

Another good article on predictable reactions to latest Prop 8 Ruling.

Bigotry Takes a Hit.

Thanks to author Michelle Goldberg

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Bridgeout Reflects on “Majority Rule”
August 6, 2010

Interesting reflection on reaction to the latest Prop 8 Ruling:

http://bridgeout.wordpress.com/2010/08/05/majority-rule/

Thanks! -MsQueer

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PROP 8 UNCONSTITUTIONAL!!!!!!
August 5, 2010

August 4, 2010 EQUAL RIGHTS VICTORY!!!!!

This afternooon, U.S. District Chief Judge Vaughn R. Walker overturned California’s controversial Prop 8 Amendment to the state constitution that had made same-sex marriage illegal.

“Ultimately, the judge concluded that Proposition 8 ‘fails to advance any rational basis in singling out gay men and lesbians for denial of a marriage license. Indeed, the evidence shows Proposition 8 does nothing more than enshrine in the California Constitution the notion that opposite-sex couples are superior to same-sex couples. … Because Proposition 8 prevents California from fulfilling its constitutional obligation to provide marriages on an equal basis, the court concludes that Proposition 8 is unconstitutional’.” (see L.A. Times Update 1:47 pm)

See L.A. Times Articles in PDF: Judge strikes down Prop 8

Full Text of Decision. Note p122 begins “Proposition 8 Does Not Survive Rational Basis” perry_v._schwarzenegger_ruling

CELEBRATE, CELEBRATE, DANCE TO THE MUSIC…..

🙂 MsQueer

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Hawaii Governor Vetoes Civil Union Bill
July 7, 2010

Just another day in Paradise…

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=128348542&f=1014&sc=tw

You heard it here first…well, second.  It’s NPR’s story.

MsQueer

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D.C. Council Votes to Recognize Same-Sex Marriages Performed Elsewhere
April 8, 2009

This is from the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force press release issued April 7, 2009:

WASHINGTON, April 7 – The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force applauds the D.C. Council for its unanimous vote today to recognize marriages of same-sex couples performed in other jurisdictions. A final vote on the measure is expected next month.

Statement by Rea Carey, Executive Director
National Gay and Lesbian Task Force

“We commend the D.C. Council’s vote. It marks another step toward the full recognition of same-sex couples, their families and their lives. We urge the council to affirm today’s action during its final vote on the bill, and call upon Mayor Adrian Fenty to then sign this important legislation. It is our hope that Congress will ultimately respect the District of Columbia’s passage of a just measure that will provide fair recognition of our relationships.

“As someone who is legally married in California and resides in the District of Columbia, I am personally grateful to the D.C. Council for moving to do the right thing.”

©2009 MsQueer.com. All rights reserved. (NOTE: Content of NGLTF Press Release sole property of  the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. No copyright infringement intended).

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Vermont Legislature Overturns Governor’s Veto to Pass Gay Marriage Law
April 8, 2009

Nine years after the state of Vermont was the first state to intorduce and pass a same-sex civil union law, it became the fourth state to legalize gay marriage. It is the first state to do so through legislative action rather than through the courts.

Details and photos are contained in the following reports:

REUTERS: Vermont Becomes the 4th State To Allow Gay Marriage

Toby Talbot / AP

Toby Talbot / AP

MSNBC: Vermont Lawmakers Legalize Gay Marriage

Toby Talbot / AP

Toby Talbot / AP

YAHOO News: Vermont Legalizes Gay Marriage With Veto Override

You can “Thank Vermont” on Facebook at: www.facebook.com/MarriageEquality

View 17-year-old James Neiley from Charlotte, VT, testifying before the Vermont Senate in favor of Marriage Equality:

NOTE: I recently discovered that this video had been removed from YouTube, but found it here:

http://www.straightgayfacts.com/NATURALGAYNOCHOICE.html

Here is the news release from the National Gay and Lesbian Task force celebrating this historic decision today:

WASHINGTON, April 7 – The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force hails the Vermont Legislature’s override today of Gov. Jim Douglas’ veto of a bill extending the freedom to marry to same-sex couples. The Senate passed the measure by 23 to 5 and the House by 100 to 49. Vermont is the first state in the nation to extend the freedom to marry through the legislative process.

Statement by Rea Carey, Executive Director
National Gay and Lesbian Task Force

“Vermont is once again making history. Nine years ago it did so when it became the first state to grant legal recognition of same-sex relationships through its civil unions law; today, it became the first state Legislature to pass and enact a marriage equality measure.

“This is a momentous day and significant turning point in the struggle for the equal treatment of our relationships. The enactment of this bill affirms that only marriage can provide the protections, dignity and respect that the institution bestows. This vote also recognizes that civil unions simply fall short in ensuring same-sex couples are treated equally under the law.

“We salute the courage and commitment of the Vermont state legislative leadership in pursuing this measure’s passage – even successfully overriding the governor’s veto. We especially extend our heartfelt thanks to Vermont Freedom to Marry for its hard work and tireless advocacy for the freedom to marry.”

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